FEATURES HAVE YOU HEARD SOCIETY GIST PROPHECY: THESE ARE THE DAYS OF SCARCITY OF HUSBANDS AS NIGERIAN LADIES EXPRESS WORRY By Admin Posted on February 13, 2020 10 min read Comments Off on PROPHECY: THESE ARE THE DAYS OF SCARCITY OF HUSBANDS AS NIGERIAN LADIES EXPRESS WORRY 0 Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Google+ Share on Pinterest Share on Linkedin Joseph Omoniyi . Are we gradually approaching the era of the fulfillment of the Biblical prophecy that says two, three women will clinch to one man for marriage, suggesting scarcity of husbands or overpopulation of young women seeking who will take them to the altar? This question was necessitated after some Nigerian ladies cried out of shortage of men who will marry them. Following what seemed like just a mere prophecy, some ladies are beginning to express their frustration over what they call scarcity of husbands. The Catholic Women Organisation had raised an alarm with a ‘prophecy’ that husbands would become scarce in Nigeria in 2023. According to this report compiled by Hotjist.com, some ladies are now expressing serious apprehension, pressure and a total lack of peace as the consequence of their inability to get married. A businesswoman simply identified as Titi said she had taken the issue of marriage as a do-or-die affair due to “internal pressure” but that as much as she had tried, frustration had often been the result. The 37-year-old who sells clothes in Ikeja, the Lagos State capital in western Nigeria, said she is not finding life easy. “What is happiness without a man in a woman’s life?” she asked our correspondent during a chat on Badoo, a relationship site on the internet. She had dated several men with some promising marriage, but without fulfilling the promise. “You can’t imagine that in the last three years, I have dated about eight men, but the relationship was often short-lived simply because I ask for their commitment. “I am not getting any younger and I cry every time I see my mates with their husbands and children. “If at 37 I don’t have a child or a permanent man, when would I have them? Is it when my skin has wrinkled? she asked our correspondent. Another 35-year-old spinster, Chioma has found herself took to various social media platforms all in the hope of finding a husband. From Eskimi, to 2go, Badoo, Whatsapp, Facebook, Twitter as well as 4clique, a site that was launched in Nigeria days ago and yet no luck. “We can’t tell the particular broom in the bunch that kills a fly,” she said on why she patronises such a number of social interaction sites. “I always change my name in the different sites but the ultimate goal is to get a husband,” she added. Chioma revealed that she is really worried about the situation, adding that she lives comfortably (in a mini-flat and has a car), “but who do I have to enjoy this comfort with me? “I have tried a hook up programme on a Lagos-based radio station, but my age is now a major factor hindering my dream of being married,” she lamented pleading with our married correspondent, who she considered a bachelor, to “help dry my tears.” A 34-year-old nurse, Blessing Osuoha who owns a private hospital in Abuja also expressed her frustration, explaining that, “My friends and family members are always asking when they would come and ‘chop’ rice, and I keep hoping,” A married woman, Mrs. Blessing Aguebor who resides in Oshodi, narrated the touching story of her friend who was disappointed by her boyfriend of five years when it was time to “settle down”. “My friend was 29 when he met this man in Benin and they dated for five years. The man was always giving the lady hope without her knowing the man had other plans. The year he fixed for their marriage was the year he travelled abroad without even informing my friend. “It was later he called her and asked her to find another man because he still had many more years to hustle. My friend almost went mad. “She is 36 now without a man. I had to convince her to relocate to Lagos so that possibly out of the population here, she would find someone. It is pathetic,” she said. A 38-year old business woman in Ketu, Mrs. Rita Adewunmi, narrated how she lost her first husband to a friend, Idayat, who was desperate for a husband. According to Mrs. Adewunmi who remarried last year, Idayat was 36 and needed a husband but her search was endless. “I was always encouraging her and made her a part of my family. She would always help me take care of the kids when I go to the market. “With time, she took over my husband without my knowledge until the day I caught them red-handed and that was the end of my marriage. Ladies are like hunters these days,” she said. A marriage counselor in Lagos, Mrs. Victoria Aliu, said that scarcity of ‘real men’ is becoming a terrible condition for women ready for marriage. She blamed the problem partly on the Nigerian economy, confusion among the bachelors on their choices of the women they want as wives and the attitudes of the spinsters. “Many women, whether consciously or not, behave irritably sometimes, forgetting that the man just beside them at every point in time may just have been nursing how to start a conversation that could lead to marriage. “Some other ladies are very choosy and unserious at their early stages of adulthood. They only open their eyes to discover that their friends are all married and that they are the only ones left at the bus stop. Then it becomes a terrible case for them,” she explained.