HOW NIGERIAN YOUTHS ARE BALANCING WORK AND FAMILY PRESSURE

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By: Fasasi Hammad

In a city that never slows down, survival often comes with a price—and for many young Nigerians, that price is responsibility.

In Lagos, where the cost of living continues to rise, and opportunities demand relentless effort, youths are stepping into roles once reserved for older adults. They are becoming breadwinners, caregivers, and emotional anchors—not out of choice, but necessity.

Behind the noise of daily hustle are quiet stories of sacrifice, resilience, and determination. Stories of young people who are not just chasing their dreams, but carrying their families along with them.

At an age when many young people are still trying to figure out their life’s path, some Nigerian youths are already carrying responsibilities far beyond their years.

For Murtala Halimah, popularly called Lima, responsibility started early—but quietly. As a student in Lagos who also works to support herself, she began taking on financial duties at just 18.
“I started by covering my own transport and helping with my siblings’ school fees,” she says.

Today, her role has evolved. While she still earns to support herself, much of her contribution to the family is now emotional—being present for her mother and handling small problems before they grow.
“Sometimes it’s just about solving little things on my own instead of always calling my parents,” she explains. Her family’s reaction to her efforts has been a source of strength.
“They were surprised but proud. They told me to keep believing in myself—and that made me feel like it matters.”

Yet, beneath that pride lies a quiet pressure. As a young woman, Halimah acknowledges that cultural expectations often shape the kind of responsibility placed on her.
“Honestly, yes,” she admits when asked if gender plays a role. “It can feel heavy sometimes, but I’m learning to get used to it.”

Despite the weight, she remains grounded. She manages stress by talking to friends, resting when necessary, and pacing herself to avoid burnout.

Her journey, she says, is still unfolding:
“Growing through what I’m going through… still figuring out but showing up every day.”

For Monday, a security guard in Lagos, the story is more direct—and more intense.

He began supporting his family at 21, stepping into a role that has since become a defining part of his life.
“It’s been long,” he says simply.

Unlike Halimah, who balances school and work, Monday’s responsibility is largely financial—and, in his words, overwhelming.
“I can’t explain it, but it’s very, very tough for me.”

Still, he continues. His family’s happiness and appreciation fuel his determination.
“They are very happy seeing me help them,” he says.

To him, responsibility is straightforward:
“I have to support them when I have it.”

But that simplicity hides a deeper struggle. His daily reality is one of pressure, long hours, and the constant need to do more.

Despite this, Monday remains focused on the future. He dreams of building his own business and starting a family—goals he believes are still within reach.
“I need to double my hustle and chase the bag,” he says.

When asked to describe his journey, he pauses before responding:
“The journey is very, very tough… but it’s a beautiful struggle.”

Across Lagos, stories like Halimah’s and Monday’s are becoming increasingly common. Young people are stepping into roles as breadwinners, problem-solvers, and emotional anchors—often before they feel fully ready.

While their experiences differ, a common thread runs through both lives: resilience.

They are navigating a demanding economy, rising living costs, and strong family expectations—all while trying to build their own futures.

And though the burden can be heavy, many are choosing to rise to the challenge—one responsibility at a time.